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The Power of Silence in Leadership

The Power of Silence in Leadership

When people think of leaders, they think of those who have a diverse vocabulary and verbose in their feelings. They think of those who want to impose their will and communicate their ideas with the utmost clarity. While there are many leaders who opt for this strategy, there are perhaps just as many leaders who use the effective tool of silence. Sometimes, words may fail us, and saying nothing can send an even louder message. So what exactly is the power of silence in leadership?

Emphasizing A Point

You do not need to use large words or project your voice in order to get a point across. Many professed leaders actually are unable to get their point across because they use too many words. However, utilizing silence will allow you to be heard when your points are important. Speaking is, of course, important to foster communication, but there is also such a thing as too much. People remember the words of leaders more when it isn’t lost in a field of rhetoric.

Helps In Negotioation

Some of the most uncomfortable moments come in silence when negotiating. The reason why it can become awkward is that the innate human nature is to fill in the gaps of silence. It is also natural to wonder what the other person is thinking during silence. However, you do not have to be the one doing all the talking. Why don’t you leave room for silence and allow them to wonder what you are thinking about them? You don’t need to answer important questions directly and immediately. Use a discomforting pause and allow the other person to fill the void. Perhaps a conversation about salary may go in your favor that way.

Empowers Others

Allowing other people to speak and listening allows leaders to create future leaders. The more future leaders are able to share their ideas, the more confident they will be in themselves, and the more that confidence will lead them to increased responsibility. Leaders provide others with leading opportunities. This gives you the respect of your pears, and your power increases in the process.

As you can see, silence can be an overlooked, but powerful weapon. Leaders use it to their advantage, furthering their high position.

The Responsibilities of Leadership

The Responsibilities of Leadership

Being the leader of an organization – or a division within that organization – can certainly have its upside.
As a leader, you have the ability to inspire a shared vision and influence the direction and activities of
your group. You have the opportunity to build a culture that encourages teamwork, accountability,
dedication, commitment, collaboration and collegiately. You have the ability to bring about change and
increase productivity. Most important, you have the ability to bring about transformation.
With these incredible responsibilities of leadership comes additional other aspects of being a leader that
are often not discussed. These include:


Being the leader means that you have the greatest influence, but it also means that you have the
greatest accountability. You must lead by example to be an effective leader. Your actions set the tone
for the entire division that you lead. You must expect more out of yourself than anybody else in your
area. You must find a way to lead all the individuals in your organization. At the end of the day,
accountability begins with you. When things go well, you receive a great deal of credit. But when things
do not go well, you shoulder the blame for that lack of success.

Decision Making

Leading an organization requires the ability to make decisions on an ongoing, regular basis. Never a day
goes by when you don’t have to make a decision. Some are easy, some are complex. Internal conflicts
are bound to arise regularly. Bringing about success is never an easy challenge. As a leader, you must
learn how to address these issues, find a way to inform your decisions and be consistent with the
decisions you make. Be clear and be concise.


One of the greatest challenges of leadership is the workload associated with being a great leader. Not
only do you have to carry out the roles and responsibilities of your own workload, but you have to be
thinking about the entire organization and all the people within your group. It reminds me of my days as
a quarterback in football. Not only did I need to know what I was supposed to do on a specific play, but I
had to know the assignments of my ten other teammates on that same play. And I also had to read and
acknowledge what the defensive alignment we were going up against.
As the leader of an organization, you feel like you need to know everything. Yet, it is physically
impossible to know everything so you have to create a communication and information system that will
ensure that everybody has a good feel for the direction of your organization, understands the vision and
the goals and objectives and how their job fits into the overall scheme. If that is accomplished, it will
feel like all are working together to accomplish the common goal.

How to Teach Children About Leadership

How to Teach Children About Leadership

Functioning as a leader can be incredibly enriching. It can simultaneously be pretty demanding as well. People who soar in leadership positions tend to learn about the concept at young ages. That’s why it’s up to the adults who are in kids’ lives to educate them well. Sharpening leadership abilities in youngsters can pave the way for promising futures and grins all around. Parents and educators alike need to stress the value of A1 leadership talents.

Behaving As a Role Model

Adults who wish to enhance leadership abilities in kids to behave as strong role models. Children are impressionable and tend to emulate the fantastic traits of the older people who are around them. Adults need to showcase their abilities to juggle all sorts of tasks to their kids. Children should watch adults manage a career, social and household responsibilities with efficiency and ease.

Highlighting Tenacity

Adults need to make a point to highlight the value of tenacity to kids. Kids need to grasp from early ages that few things in life come easily to anyone. They need to comprehend that tenacity and determination are vital characteristics for all leaders. Adults should talk to children about the realities of setbacks. There are no human beings who are invulnerable to the possibilities of dilemmas and errors.

Discussing Self-Assured Communication Practices

People who are fantastic leaders also are always outstanding communicators. If an adult wishes to better leadership abilities in any child, he or she should discuss communication methods that are self-assured and direct. Exceptional leaders are not people who ever beat around the bush. They’re individuals who go above and beyond to get their points across to others. They have interaction skills that are often unequaled.

Discussing Pure Effort

Laziness and strong leadership are two subjects that honestly do not ever go hand in hand. Adults who want children to grasp outstanding leadership need to discuss pure effort and care. People who are eager to soar in this world need to have the ability to get out there and keep their eyes on the prize. People who are lazy and who constantly make excuses are never the individuals who stand out. Effort is imperative for leaders. Leaders are people who don’t live in fear of getting out there.


Highly successful leader in securing philanthropy and private equity

Matt Kupec:

  • Fundraising professional with 30+ years of senior management experience at major organizations
  • Significant track record of increasing philanthropic support
  • Built best-in-class, nationally recognized operations
  • Nearly $5 billion has been raised under his leadership

Who is Matt Kupec?

Matt Kupec has led major fundraising operations at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Hofstra University (Hempstead, NY), the Moffitt Cancer Center & Research Institute (Tampa, FL) and NY-based non-profit HelpMeSee.

The key to Matt’s success in leading the teams of these very major and complex organizations is that he fully understands the importance of collaboration and collegiately in building a team fundraising approach in an organization.

During his tenure leading the fundraising teams at these important organizations, Matt Kupec has managed thousands of team and staff members.  Leadership is about getting the individuals to join together under a shared vision, with a common set of goals and objectives, creating an office environment of collegiately and collaboration, and pushing all to reach new heights.  This has been the trademark of Matt’s successful leadership.

The creation of the “total team fundraising approach” has manifested itself in the record breaking results that have been recorded.  At UNC, cash flow grew from $62M to $300M during Matt Kupec’s tenure. UNC was the recipient of 12 Council for the Support & Advancement of Education (CASE) Outstanding Fundraising Performance awards, the most received of any University during that time.  At Moffitt, fundraising skyrocketed from $13 million to $37 million in one year, a remarkable 250% increase in just the first twelve months!

Matt has always been a leader throughout his life.  Born and raised in Syosset, NY on Long Island as the middle child of seven children of Bill and Helen Kupec, Matt, enjoyed a prolific high school career as an outstanding student-athlete.  A three sport star – football, basketball and baseball – Matt Kupec earned many honors and awards including prep All-American in football where he led his Syosset HS football squad to an undefeated season and #1 ranking as the top High School team in the entire New York state.

With many full scholarship offers to choose from following his successful football career, Matt chose to accept a full scholarship to attend the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill because of its high academic standing and strong football program.  

At UNC, Matt Kupecwas the starting quarterback for four years and led the Tar Heels to bowl games in three of the four seasons.   He was named Most Valuable Player in the Liberty and Gator Bowls.

Matt set 19 season and career passing records while a UNC quarterback.  In fact, two of those records – most consecutive games throwing a touchdown pass and most wins as a starting quarterback – remain standing nearly 40 years after his playing career.  Matt Kupec earned a reputation for being a “winner” during his UNC career.

All of these experiences – large family, three-sport athlete who was the pitcher in baseball, the point guard in basketball and the quarterback in football – have contributed to Matt’s passion for building the team approach to fundraising.  One of Matt’s favorite expressions deals with leadership and the importance of building team, “if you want to go fast, go alone. But if you want to go far, we must go together.”

Those words have inspired and motivated countless number of staff members who have worked for Matt Kupec and helped to bring the results that have positively impacted the lives of thousands of students, faculty and patients across this country to work for a better society.

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The Power of Silence in Leadership

The Power of Silence in Leadership

When people think of leaders, they think of those who have a diverse vocabulary and verbose in their feelings. They think of those who want to impose their will and communicate their ideas with the utmost clarity. While there are many leaders who opt for this...